This week we did mini case studies that dealt with choices
of whether or not to spend time with family or focus on career and for whatever
reason I wanted to get on a soapbox and share some amazing advice my
grandmother gave me early in my marriage that has had a large influence on our family culture. We had recently moved to Virginia but
it felt more like I lived in Virginia with our firstborn and my husband lived
in D.C. where he was working and going to school full-time. He would leave every morning before we woke
up and take the train to get to work and then he would get home after dark,
exhausted and have to study. Sunday was
often the only day we spent together. I
complained to my Grandma about being a single mom and she in turn shared what
she had just read about Brigham Young and mothers who came to him concerned
that he was calling their husbands to go on missions and they wouldn’t know
their children. Brigham Young told the
mothers to teach their children the gospel, about the priesthood and the great
things their husbands were doing. He
then promised them that when the children were older they would work in the
fields with their father and they would love him. She basically told me to knock it off and see
the bigger picture. I had a lot of
influence in our home and could either create a supportive culture or a
negative culture. One of the privileges
of being a Latter-day saint is that we have the long view. We know that as a couple we are creating an eternal partnership. We know what we are building both in our own
life and in our family’s life. We should
support our spouses in our journeys to multiply our talents and develop
ourselves. In our short thirteen years
together I have learned that we each have had to take a turn at needing to lean heavily on
the other for support. This is the purpose of family counsels.
It is my last week of my first and last semester for awhile being a full time student. It has been an extremely interesting experience and a blessing. I have absolutely loved every minute and I am so excited to be finished for a bit. December is every mother's marathon. So far, I have planned and executed two birthday parties and two parties in our ward. There has also been three large family parties so far, with another planned tomorrow. Christmas means decorating the house, Christmas cards to address and write and Christmas recitals to prepare for and attend. I try to have all the shopping done by Thanksgiving but there are always last minute things to get. All of this while doing all that is normally required of my stewardship which includes a heavy travel schedule for my husband who has been in Europe this past week. For the first time this semester, I felt like I have had a glimpse of full time employment and full time motherhood. A wise mother said to me, "yo
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